MATTERS OF THE HEART

It’s funny how our emotions are associated with heart when in strict biological sense they are doings of the brain. Hormones released at the commands of brain cause emotions, as many as they come. Okay, that’s how much of ‘life-science’ taught in school, is left with me. Who is to blame for such a confusion? Romantics (not the best at human anatomy), I guess. A lie told a hundred times is as good as a truth. Also, to rebel is not my biggest strength. So, I too will pretend that the heart is responsible for butterflies in the stomach and tears in the eyes. 

             The brain heart sometimes can be such a pain in the a**. It makes us do weird things, speak/write weirder things (the damn poems!) and feel the weirdest things. You think you are in control of things and then one day you fall in love (or whatever connotations come with it). I’ve never had the good fortune of falling in love. Unrequited (one-sided) love liking?  I’m a veteran. But then again, what is love? If one of you have got any idea, please do tell. 

      Lately, I find myself wondering about what exactly leads to love. Most of the times, it’s physical infatuation later transforming into an emotional attachment. Sometimes it’s the intellect that attracts. Sometimes, people grow fond of each other’s company and then take the big leap. Similarly, many more causes can be cited. But if you are asked to put finger on singular central, crucial, indispensable reason, most probably you wouldn’t be able to. 

               Maybe, the idea of love is purely abstract. Even if you feel it,  you can’t define it in a manner that includes all aspects of love. It will elude you, always. So, I think one should give up this futile attempt at defining love. Rather, we should be happy and content with whatever share of love, in bits and pieces, we get. 

        Things people do out of love, for love, to get over love, to get someone’s love et cetera are the most interesting. Here, I won’t be talking about the people who are already happy with their partners, their quest for love already over. Congratulations! for your fairy-tale has come true. I would rather sympathise with the less fortunate ones. Comrades! I hear you, I feel you!

       I’ve seen people who would rather keep their feelings buried, in fear of rejection, waiting to muster courage, for months and years. Some just wouldn’t admit that they have caught feelings for someone and rather live in denial. Some, just announce their love even knowing that their feelings won’t be reciprocated. Some fight for their love, with all vigour and strength. Some even beg. But, sadly, of no avail. Then they turn themselves to other ‘ distractions’ which can be a ‘fling’ or ‘rebound’, alcoholism, cigarettes et cetera. Some hit the gym. Some take recourse to poetry and music. I did too. A few people draw great inspiration from Professor Snape and continue to love in their own way, “Always!”. Well, whatever floats their boat!  

              Everyone wants love. Yet, everyone doesn’t get it. Maybe it is an act of God. Being loved by someone maybe just a lucky chance. You can’t make anyone love you. “It’s just dumb luck” (a dialogue from Netflix series- SEX EDUCATION). But one can’t just give up on love. One must learn to love, fiercely, with all passion. The bigger need is learning to let go, if and when time comes. Love is like a huge force. You can’t but get swayed or rather rocked by it. When this huge force befalls you, it sets you on a journey. ‘May the force be with you!’. Godspeed!

P.S. - I tend to overshare.😬